Yes, Mother. I can see you are flawed.
You have not hidden it.
That is your greatest gift to me ~ Alice Walker
Everybody has a mum and her presence or non presence can have a powerful influence on your life and how you choose to lead it.
You may decide you want to be just like her, or nothing like her. You may grow up to be a perfectionist because you felt the only way you could get her attention or approval was to do everything perfectly. You may have been abandoned by your mother either physically or emotionally leading to difficulty in trusting others.
You may have had an overprotective mother who was always telling you to rug up more before you went outside or always checking on how you were doing. You may also have or had a mum who instilled confidence in you and was there when you needed her.
Whatever the case, most mums do, or did, the best they could. Most mums love their children, although they may not or cannot show it. Sometimes this may be due to illness (as in postnatal depression), they may not have received love or they may have been abused as a child and don’t know how to show love to their own children.
Here are 7 essential oils that may help with your mother issues:
- Black Pepper (Piper nigrum) is helpful if you are always questioning your own decisions and worrying about whether you have made the right one.
- Eucalyptus (Eucalyptus radiata) if you are feeling suffocated by your mother.
- Grapefruit (Citrus paradisi) is especially useful if you comfort eat to help deal with your difficult emotions or have perfectionistic tendencies. This oil is photosensitive so don’t use on skin that will be exposed to the sun in the next 12 hours.
- Kunzea (Kunzea ambigua) will help you deal with both physical and emotional pain.
- Palmarosa (Cymbopogon martini) can help heal feelings of betrayal, abandonment or not being loved by your mother.
- Pine (Pinus sylvestris) can help you deal with issues of low self-esteem.
- Rose (Rosa damascena) is one of the best oils to use when you are dealing with issues of abuse, lack of trust, emotional coldness, rejection or loss. This is a very expensive oil but you can buy it in 3% jojoba which is perfect for working on a subtle or emotional level. Apply to your heart and solar plexus chakras.
The above oils can be used singly or in a blend of 2 or 3 oils in a vaporiser, massage or anointing blend. For information on dilution see http://www.thefragrantbridge.com/guidelines-for-diluting-essential-oils/
PLEASE NOTE: The information provided in this article is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose, treat or prescribe any medical condition. It is not meant to replace the care or advice your doctor gives you. If you have any concerns please consult your doctor or a professionally trained aromatherapist.
Carole Hodges
Carole Hodges is a professional aromatherapist and massage therapist who has trained in Australia and abroad. She has been using essential oils with her clients for 18 years and continues to update her knowledge. Carole offers aromatherapy massage, Spiritual Essence Aromatherapy massage and True Essence healing sessions and is the author of the Fragrant Change Healing Cards. She can be contacted by email at carole@thefragrantbridge.com on her website or her Facebook page